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Hola readers!

 I'm nineteen and I've never been on a date. Girls have asked me countless times if I've ever had a boyfriend and then ask why not.
"Because I've never found a boy worth dating."
I don't know if that's true or not - I've known lots of nice guys. The honest truth is, I've never been asked on a date, and I've never had the chance to say yes or no. Lately, that has really made me wonder about my worth, really made me doubt myself in the last few years.
I've crushed on many guys but have never appeared to have those feelings returned. This is both disheartening and can make a girl want to go into her shell and stop trying to be herself. It makes you doubt whether or not you're good enough, pretty enough...if you'll ever get married and have kids and have that little cottage in the field (dream home, folks).

It's hard to watch friends get boyfriends and get married, for me to receive wedding invitations and see baby pictures on Instagram. While either you feel me or you yourself don't feel ready for any of that, I realized that even at a young age, I thought a guy could complete me, be my better half, that all my insecurities would melt away when he stepped into my life. I wanted my happy ending that movies like You've Got Mail, While You Were Sleeping, and Hallmark channel promise us - that moment when the world is right because your dream is fulfilled.

We all have that image of what could complete us. Some people choose drugs, some social media, peer's approval, good grades, a concrete job, fulfilling a particular dream, or even clinging to old, familiar fears - we feel that this is what will make us better versions of ourselves, make up for the pain, give people a better view about us, or keep us safe.
Sometimes I fear that my dream of becoming an author is also centered around this idea of wanting completeness.

But nothing gives us that feeling we want except Christ. Whether you're single, dating or married, nothing or no one allows you to find yourself and who you are except the One who created you.
 It's that time where you can completely and utterly learn who you are and who you were created to be.
This past year and this current one, has become months of self-discovery, learning who I am. I don't think I could have gotten that in a relationship, because I would be focusing more on Us then Me. God has given me this time, this singlness that I despised as a young teen, as a time to grow. I've learned more about myself then I ever would have otherwise. I'm becoming confident in who I am - without a boyfriend, without my first kiss, without date nights.
This Valentines Day, as a single, really take the time to lean into God as well as the other singles in your life. Take the time to look at what you may be using to complete you. This takes all forms and can even be what's good but has turned into something far more important then it should.

Happy Valentines Day readers!

And because you deserve something for reading these rambles, check out the giveaway below made possible by the author. The book (Savoring Single) is beautiful and I've really enjoyed reading it! I feel very blessed to be part of the book tour.

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About The Author of Savoring Single:

Shelley Black has journeyed through being single longer than she expected and has since found joy, hope and purpose from a once begrudged season. She now challenges the status quo of what it means to be single as a modern-day Christian female, with a passion to infuse hope and restore joy to every single-girl heart. Shelley is a loving momma to her pup Lucy, is one proud “T” to six nieces and nephews and serves her local church in North Mississippi as the worship leader. Find her at SavoringSingle.com and across social media at SavoringSingle.

 Official Website:

www.savoringsingle.com